Gay Sikh Man Was Forced To Dress Up As A Woman On His Wedding Day
A gay Sikh man was forced to dress up as a woman on his wedding day because his in-laws didn’t want anyone to know he was male.
Roy Singh, from Manchester UK, was told to wear a wig, high heels and make-up by his fiance’s family to convince the community their son was not gay.
The 29-year-old met his future husband when he was 18 and ended up moving to London to live in his family home.
But Mr Singh says he tried to kill himself after being subjected to nine months of abuse at the hands of his British Sikh in-laws, The Mirror reports.
On the wedding day, his mother-in-law told guests Mr Singh was an orphaned widow and so had no family.
He said: ‘She said if I wanted to marry him I would have to dress as a woman on the wedding day. I would also need to pretend to be a woman for a while to convince the community her son isn’t gay.’
Mr Singh claims he almost fainted in fear of being found out at the huge ceremony of 450 guests.
The following day he said he was told he would now be called Lucky and would have to dress in women’s clothes.
Mr Singh said: ‘My mum-in-law started calling me her daughter-in-law. There was a time when I came down in slippers, not really dressed. She said I needed to maintain myself at all times and never come down again like that.’
And he said he was treated like a slave in the home and was made to do 18 hours of chores a day.
He ended up losing weight after only being allowed to eat a bowl of weetabix and a smoothie a day and was barely allowed to see his husband.
His mother-in-law also told him he was too fat and wouldn’t let him to use the toilet so he would often wet himself.
And things got worse when his parents found out about the marriage on Facebook after seeing wedding photos of him dressed up as a bride.
His mother-in-law forced then him to visit his family dressed as Lucky. He said: ‘She wanted to sit down with my family and tell them what had happened. They took it really badly and told me never to come home again.’
Mr Singh finally found the courage to leave after nine months and ended up in a homeless shelter.
But four months later he found out his husband was set to marry a woman and he tried to kill himself.
He said: ‘I put my wedding outfit back on and I went down to the river and slashed my wrists. I felt like they made me his wife so I was going to kill the wife.’
A passerby saved Mr Singh by dragging him from the water and he was taken to hospital where his parents where called. They took him back home and supported him.
Brave Mr Singh now performs in drag as Lucky in a bid to take control of his identity.
But he still has flashbacks about the months of abuse and wakes up screaming.
His ex, who has not been named, told the newspaper: ‘Me and my mum would like to apologise to Roy Lucky Singh.’
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Source: MSN
